You didn't get the job. She's not returning your calls. The cancer came out of remission.
The most crushing events in life, almost all of the time, are things that happen to us. They are usually not things that we do. They are events that, ultimately, are not in our control. We can be the most qualified, with the best resume, and a killer job interview, but at the end of the day we cannot force an employer to hire us.
How do you pick yourself up off the ground, shake off the dust, and try again? How do you find that motivation? Focus on what you can control.
You cannot always get the job you apply for, but you can always improve your skills, sharpen your resume, be punctual, research the company you're interviewing with, and make a concerted effort to present yourself in the best light. You cannot guarantee good health and a long life, but you can eat nutritious food, you can be physically active, you can seek out good medical advice, and you can resolve to follow your treatment plan to the letter.
When you focus on what you can control, you do not waste emotional energy wishing that you could control what you cannot. When you are faced with headwinds or even a definitive setback, you are either satisfied with how you pursued the goal and ready to try again, or you can learn from mistakes in your process. Focusing on your process helps improve your future efforts. Focusing on the outcome either makes you complacent in success or despondent in failure.
So don't set out to get a job, set out to be as employable as you can be. Don't set out to cheat death and live for 100 years, set out to live a healthy life one decision at a time. Don't go out on Saturday night to get laid, go out to meet people and put your best foot forward.
If you focus on what you can control, you will not face more setbacks than you did when you focused on results. In fact, you'll more often find that the results start to take care of themselves.
Submitted June 22, 2017 at 06:51PM by VladMolina http://ift.tt/2su3H6r
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